How to find a Husband (Part III)

So it has been almost a year since the post on “How to find a Husband” according to my aunt. I am doing a stock taking of events in my life in the last 11 months. It may please you (or displease my aunt) to note that; no I have not cut off my hair/locs, and no I have not suddenly changed my age from the actual to the mid-20s. I still exercise and I remain consistent with my views on politics and the world.

But you see, I am still not married, and her patience is running out. You would think that I am the one whose patience will be running out, but no, this is a case of “drinking panadol on top of somebody’s headache”. The psalms and things keep being thrown my way. I think my aunt knows that I do not say them (for the most part), and so she sends even more to make me feel guilty. Anyway, it’s been over a year, and I have now decided to take matters into my own hands. I reckon these steps will fetch me a nice Igbo man in no time.

Couple getting married. source:annechia.com
Couple getting married. source:annechia.com

1. Buy a 32″ human hair. I haven’t decided if it will be from Brazil or Peru. All I know is that I am buying it, and it is going on my head where it will sit tight and walk around with me in my search.

Human hair on the way. source:elitevirginhair.com
Human hair on the way. source:elitevirginhair.com

2. Buy some Dencia otherwise known distastefully as bleaching cream. I do not know why trouble makers insist on giving this thing a bad name. The Igbo brothers like yellow sisi, so I better get cracking. Plus the new colour will match my new hair.

3. Learn to smile and keep my head down, you can’t be engaging anyhow with your eyes and discourse. I have been trawling youtube looking for videos on “how to be coy”. Chi m, it is not that easy. But it seems to be working, or maybe those vloggers are just messing with me.

4. Find an Igbo church here, that should not be too difficult. I went to a church in East London and for a minute, I thought I was in Gbagada. When I find the Igbo church, I shall join the youth forum, ushers, video team, caretakers, welfare team, readers, choir, women/mothers group (yes people like that sort of thing, it draws sympathy that you have shown so much faith and vulnerability. In no time, the married women will begin to introduce you to all their husbands’ single friends. I must remember to call them all “Aunty”). This is a question spreading your bets as much as you can. This blog is as much for me as for you single out there searching for your Igbo prince charming o. Shine your eye.

Photo source: www.clipartof.com
Photo source: http://www.clipartof.com

5. Stop being a smart ass, even me I am tired sef. Henceforth when I meet those potentials, I shall be saying the following, with a coy smile and downcast eyes:

5a. “I only just recently arrived, my father paid my fees to do a master’s, so I just want to bend down and study o”. Yeah I reckon that line spoken in the softest of voices should work.

5b. “I don’t really believe in all this new talk, people have learnt bad things from the west. A man is still the head of the home, every woman should listen to her husband no matter what. He’s beating you, he’s cheating on you, something must have gone wrong in your attitude. Me, I believe if a man does something that you do not like, it is not your job to engage him or fight and nag, no matter what it is, you don’t talk back. Just go on your knees to God, then after that, cook him a hearty meal”

5c. “Ah ah, but my husband should know how much I earn. There’s nothing wrong with giving your man your ATM card or even pay cheques once you receive them. He’s the head”

6. On the first date, I shall invite him over and cook some jollof rice with spicy goat meat. I shall also make white soup with poundo and some chocolate brownies. Before he starts eating, I shall cover my hair and say the grace. The long version. Ok make it second date, I mustn’t appear too keen.

Poundo and Egusi. Source: www.ventures-africa.com
Poundo and Egusi. Source: http://www.ventures-africa.com

7. All my high heels are going on sale on ebay. You can’t be a 5ft 8inches woman and be wearing 6″heels. As one igbo brother told me at a party in January, “your height is intimidating”. He then proceeded to bolt, and came back only after he was slightly inebriated and made me sit down while he stood. Henceforth, only 3″ heels, thank you very much.

8. I must stop calling myself a woman. It sends the wrong message. “You don born”? I have been asked. So from now onwards, I am a girl. or maybe lady?

9. No more JD and coke, or wine at these Igbo things. Henceforth fanta and coke. Or five alive, if we can find any. I don’t drink alcohol. It’s even bitter anyway.

10. And I must not dance every time I hear music, just sends all the wrong signals.

11. Imagine the swishing of my south American hair, when I walk from one single and searching Igbo man to the next at the upcoming event, freshening drinks and smiling. Fetching chicken wings and dips. It’s all for the cause.

Spicy chicken wings for the men at parties. www.godfatherpizzawoodoven.co.uk
Spicy chicken wings for the men at parties. http://www.godfatherpizzawoodoven.co.uk

12. Who has an opinion about the upcoming elections? I don’t! I am just praying about it, I do not discuss politics. That one is for you men o. I am facing my work.

13. Ask for money for most things. Why should I pay for things myself? A man is in control when he pays and hears thank you. The youtube vlogs said men do not like independent women, so why should I be independent? No wonder my asoebi plans haven’t come to fruition.

These are all I have considered, and I shall take it from here. I am also open to advice, if you know of any quick fixes, please send them my way. I suppose in some ways my aunt was right, one has to be smart about these things and use local sense. You have to know and understand your audience, it doesn’t matter how, it’s the end that justifies the means. Enough said, I must get cracking. Au revoir

8 thoughts on “How to find a Husband (Part III)”

  1. Nne get cracking but you have forgotten to also let them know that your father owns an oil block in Naija. Nice one.

  2. Hummmmm…….i like most part except the bleaching stuff and the money part. Sounds more of fairy tale sha. Any man that is intimidated by you now will not change unless you want to pretend forever. I think you should open up your mind too….. Any God fearing man should do, why must it be an Igbo man?

    1. Hahaha most of it is satire really. I have no plans to change who I am. I am quite open to non-Igbo men actually, the post is just a reflection of my aunt’s views. Now on to the most important bit, do you have any brothers? 🙂

  3. You forgot housework oooo. Every man wants a woman who would clean up after him. Girl ure slacking ooo. We have to please our ogas. It’s not easy for them. Imagine the stress of going to work and they come back to a clean house and freshly prepared food. Is it easy for them to just come home like that eh. Even the woman is enjoying all the stress of running home from work, cleaning the house and cooking for her oga.

  4. Hello! I am from the USA, my mother is Korean and my father is American. I am so glad you have a sense of humor about this. My mother was raised in a very similar sense, with men having all the power. Therefore, she wanted my life to be different. My husband and I are considered equals and all life choices are a joint agreement. I could not imagine it any other way. My mother said when she was little she used to wish she was born a boy. I hope no other generation of girls ever grow up thinking that. It is so wonderful you are getting your education, that is a power no one will ever be able to take away. I hope you do find love but on your terms not anyone’s elses!

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